We’ve all seen the movies and read the books and more than likely had someone come out to home room to talk about it – the great wonder that is sorority life. Unfortunately, a lot of times the message these things leave a girl with is – “”if you don’t join, your college experience is worthless””. This of course leads to the subject of this particular blog – lots and lots and lots of truly horrible advice about how to rush and behave in regards to a sorority. Here are the three worst pieces of advice in regards to sorority life.
1. ‘Being a good sister means changing who you are.’
Of course, no one puts it quite like that; however what is often told to pledges and new sisters is that they need to conform to a certain look or standard. While there are certain expectations that have to be met, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be an individual. You don’t need to be stick-thin or embrace the fad of the moment to be a valuable member. There is a reason you are total to stand out during recruitment week – a functional house is a diverse one. Do not embarrass your house – but at the same time don’t forget what makes you who you are.
2. ‘ If you aren’t clicking with your sisters – it’s your fault.’
Something pledges don’t often get is that just because you’re “”sisters”” doesn’t mean you’re all BFFs forever. Actual flesh and blood sisters don’t always get along, so why should this be any different? The truth is… that it’s not. Some of the girls you meet will be good friends, some will be best friends, and some will just be acquaintances. Unfortunately, there will be a few who are … well mean and hateful. And that’s fine – you don’t have to like each other so long as you don’t cause any drama. What isn’t okay is bending over backwards to try and make someone like you – that’s an action that will only hurt you in the long run. If they can’t appreciate you that’s their loss, just keep doing you.
3. ‘Your life should only revolve around Greek Life.’
Only 12% of American undergrads pledge Greek – and there are a ton of reasons for that. The biggest one, of course, is that college is supposed to be a time where you discover yourself. Do you like music? Are you a people person? Is being a polyglot your thing? What about studying abroad? There are a million and one things to be doing without burying yourself in Greek – and that’s not even counting the education you’re suppose to be focusing on. Now that doesn’t mean don’t go to the parties or the charity drives or the meetings – it does however mean you shouldn’t feel obliged to ignore other avenues of interest. This an important part of your life – explore as much of it as you can.
Those were three really bad pieces of advice – so here’s one good one: Have fun. Greek Life isn’t the be-all of everything, but it can be a wonderful experience… and isn’t that the point?